04 Apr Who is taking care of you, mum?
Learn how to take care of you
There is no denying that motherhood is gratifying, rewarding and full of unconditional love.
The one thing that never gets commented on is how inevitably depleting being a mum can be to our energy levels, our emotional wellbeing, our health and our social life.
Most importantly, we never seem have any regard for how quickly and in short succession this change takes place. There is a lot of emotional and physical changes us women go through when we become a mother paired with now having another a little human to care for. As socialist, Dr Rowe, has rightly pointed out “Mothering is a set of learned skills and you learn on the job.”
According to the Australian Better Life Index, us mums are trying to “keep up appearances” with society that we have everything in check. This is on the back of us reportedly working 80 hour weeks in paid employment and household chores with minimal support and a thought process that mum is now number 2 in importance within the family.
Most alarming from this survey, is that almost half of the women surveyed go to work sick because their priority is to retain that sick leave for when their children are sick. It’s no wonder a research paper by Wooden and Buddelmeyer reported that we live in “a permanent lifetime of increased stress’.
This concerns me for me, for you and our daughters! And it saddens me that society expectations of a role as a woman has pushed us to believe that we are not worthy of our own time, our own desires and our own interests. Rather, our thought process as a mother is that this is my life now and what I want does not come into play.
My mission is to work with mothers and help you overcome these mindsets, empower you to find that passion which will nurture your wellbeing and most importantly help you realise that taking care of you is not selfish.
Some of my top tips to help you start to take care of you are below:
Take a reality check
Make time to sit down and better understand your current reality. How are you feeling? I find writing down my feelings are a great way to really tune into how I am feeling and what is going on in my head and heart.
Where and how do you spend your time? Make a daily log of all of your activities in your day and start to process how you spend your time. We all talk about how busy we are, but are you good busy or bad busy?
Take a breather
Connecting with your breath is a fabulous and rewarding way to slow down and destress. Simply stopping for 2 minutes while you close your eyes and take a few deep breaths helps you enter into the relaxation response. Doing this helps you reset and gain new perspective. I find this really helpful as I transition from one task to the other, i.e. arriving home from work I always take a quick breather in the car.
Find a coach
A Health and Wellness coach is a really rewarding and exciting resource to use when you are looking to improve your overall health and wellbeing. They provide support and guidance and will empower you to take care of you through making small stepped changes and improvements to your life.
Do you have any other tips on how you take care of you? I’d love to hear them, feel free to share with me.
If you are interested in trying out a Health and Wellness Coach, contact me today for your FREE 20 minute discovery session.